LifeWorks Recovery Counseling Center
Relationship Pattern Assessment
This private self-assessment can help you reflect on attachment patterns, emotional closeness, relationship anxiety, independence, avoidance, and the ways you may respond when relationships feel uncertain.
This assessment is for reflection and education only. It is not a diagnosis and does not replace counseling or a clinical evaluation.
Before You Begin
The questions below are based on common relationship and attachment themes. You may notice patterns related to reassurance, fear of disconnection, emotional distance, vulnerability, trust, or the need for independence.
Choose the response that best describes how you usually feel in close relationships.
Scale:
1 = Strongly disagree
2 = Disagree
3 = Slightly disagree
4 = Neutral / unsure
5 = Slightly agree
6 = Agree
7 = Strongly agree
Relationship Reflection Questions
What This Assessment Looks At
Relationship Anxiety
Relationship anxiety can include fear of rejection, worry about abandonment, needing frequent reassurance, overthinking changes in tone or communication, and feeling unsettled when closeness feels uncertain.
Emotional Distance
Emotional distance can include pulling away when relationships feel intense, avoiding vulnerability, relying mostly on yourself, minimizing needs, or feeling uncomfortable when someone wants more closeness.
Secure Connection
Secure connection often includes the ability to ask for support, tolerate closeness, repair conflict, respect independence, and stay emotionally present during difficult conversations.
Confidential Counseling Support
LifeWorks Recovery provides counseling for individuals and couples navigating relationship disconnection, attachment wounds, betrayal trauma, intimacy concerns, emotional stress, and patterns that feel hard to change alone.
Counseling can help you better understand your relational patterns, improve communication, rebuild trust, strengthen emotional safety, and create healthier ways of connecting.