As a partner of an addict, we learn to deny our own reality, and to suffer, sometimes silently, with the truth of our partners deceit and betrayal. Constantly lied to, we began to become someone and something we did not wish to be, like:
Reclaiming our true self-begins when we get help for ourselves. The hardest step is to admit we can’t change the addicted partner, and we decide to stop repeating behaviors that haven’t ever worked.
The realization that what was a bad idea yesterday is still a bad idea today and a commitment to reality at all costs is the beginning of trusting yourself again.
The healing process is the most important journey you will ever make, even if your partner does not join you. Several books to get started are:
The process of recovery must include working through the trauma that the addicts behavior creates, along with individual, group, and family therapy. Helping partners of addicts requires having a trained professional who is knowledgeable, compassionate, and who has experience with this population. Recovery is primarily a grieving process. We understand this critical piece of healing.
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